Pepi means baby in Te Reo (my indigenous language)
Bebe is French Kweyol (Creole) for baby in my wife’s language.
We are also blogging about our love for baking, cooking and each other on our foodie blog. Visit Making Love With Food.
A overview as to who we are and our TTC journey…
– 2 women deeply in love
– TTC our first ‘take home’ baby
– I’m part Maori (indigenous) and part Pakeha (white New Zealander)
– She’s Afro-Caribbean (and totally gorgeous both inside and out)
– We married in Feb 2012 (well to be exact, we are legally Civil Union-ed & will marry at some stage since Marriage Equality passed here in April 2013!)
– 35 (her) and 37 (me)
– We’ve been together since June 2008
– Devastatingly we lost our first two babies at 12 weeks by unexplained miscarriage (hence my desire for a ‘take home live baby’)
– We’ve discovered I have very high levels of anti-thyroid antibodies which are likely to be causing the miscarriages, so we are treating this naturopathically and with acupuncture. The antibodies also cause me to fluctuate between hypothyroid and hyperthyroid. I’ve also gone mainly gluten free as that helps.
– Our donor is my wife’s brother who lives in the Caribbean. He recently (ahhhh not so recently now!) came back into NZ for round two.
Unfortunately his sperm doesn’t thaw well after being frozen, so we cannot use IUI through a clinic or freeze any for when he has to go home. So it’s fresh DIY inseminations only. This puts some pretty major time pressure on events and meant it was doubly devastating when we lost the second baby as we had no money to bring him back for a while and we didn’t know if he’d get a visitor visa again.
– I’ve detoxed and metabolized and supplemented and dietary restricted and meditated daily and accupunctured and hypnotherapied and cranial osteopathed and uterine bathed to the great detriment of our bank account over the last 12 months. (See our TTC Journey for an update as this was all so very long ago now.)
– The wife is in IT & works from home
– From mid 2012 – early 2014 I took some time out just doing some consulting work after the MC’s, and before that I owned a very demanding tourism company for 7 years. I currently work (supposedly) half time doing fundraising for the the local school and spend the rest of my time on local community development and a Trust board I am on.
– In April 2012 we moved from the city to live on coastal country family land about 1hrs drive away from Auckland (NZ’s largest city).
– We are living semi sustainably off our large permaculture organic fruit and vegie gardens, with chickens for eggs, fishing for fish (obviously), and the local weekly farmers market for expensive treats.
– Life is peaceful and good and we are ready to welcome our babies into it.
UPATE Apr 2013: BIL came back and stayed for 7 months from Oct 12 – Apr 13. We tried over 7 cycles but didn’t get one BFP. He’s now had to return to the Caribbean and we are in the same limbo as last year not knowing if he will be able to come back again, or when.
Update Feb 2014 – We have a new donor (my wife’s cousin who lives in NZ), and are preparing to start IUI’s (fingers crossed) in April 2014!
Update Jul 2014 – The previous donor pulled out at the last minute, we found a new donor – 2 months later he pulled out. We are now looking at an anonymous donor through a fertility clinic…See TTC Journey for all the gory details.